Mothering all Boys
November 12, 2015 Adrienne Brown 12 Comments
Raising all boys can be challenging
I think sometimes that I am weird or somehow overwhelmingly emotional.
After raising all boys I am left with a void that can’t be filled.
I sometimes stew over things that a lot of my mom friends push to the side. At least that is the impression some moms like to put out there.
Not me, I don’t mind being vulnerable when it comes to reminiscing about my full-time job as a mother to all boys.
My husband and I are at the point in our lives where nearly all our sons are gone from the proverbial nest.
We have one school-aged son still at home and a baby girl that we adopted later. She is not officially ready for pencil and paper yet, though.
But, the age difference between the two children makes it seem as if we only have one student left.
Raising all-boys required some serious scheduling
The days when I was responsible for managing the schedules of four boys, are behind me now.
Yet, these thoughts enter my mind and just sit there for a while. Sometimes too long, and I find that I have to push them away so that I can go on with my today.
How I miss the busyness, and the joy of having my boys all at home, at the same time. Those times were tumultuous, rich and sometimes kinda dangerous.
Why, I can remember having to put out plenty of their fires, fiery attitudes, fiery playing, and literal fires.
One day they decided that it would be a nice experiment to see if the mist from a can of house spray would flame up. I walked outside, just in time to see the flames shoot from the nozzle towards the many leaves lying all over the yard.
It was a good thing that the boys were standing, which kept the flames high and from ever reaching the leaves on the ground in our ‘wooded’ back yard.
There are so many stories like that, stories that when I think them they make me chuckle inside. Boy isn’t it a good thing to be able to homeschool.
I know that my boys would’ve gotten detention or jail for that stunt. That is definitely, another reason I look back upon those days with a grateful heart.
Some of my other cherished memories, are how the boys always took care of me, once they were big enough. Whenever we went grocery shopping during the day or to the library (as we attempted to check out all the books on the shelves).
I never had to pack the grocery bags, nor did I have to lift them to put them in the car. I rarely ever carried the library bags or pumped the gas.
My husband trained my sons to care for me so well that to this day I feel spoiled rotten. When I think about that, it makes me type ‘Lol’ I am laughing out loud with thankfulness.
Realizing that my job of mothering was much easier because of their training.
You know, my one son who is still home, treats me the same way, and the amazing thing is, he also, takes care of his sister that same way.
What mom wants to lose that royal treatment?
I know that these boys that God has blessed me with will make wonderful strong men. Leaders, and husbands who can be trusted to do the right thing.
When looking back, I just can’t find any regrets for choosing the life of a stay at home, homeschooling, crunchy mom.
It is a season that I hold very dear, and embraced as my destiny while it lasted. Besides, after having so many in my small school at the same time, having only two now, seems like a breeze.
Although, I’ve had others say that this is a time in my life when I am to enjoy having an empty nest. I strongly disagree.
Yes, I am looking forward to a new season, but I loved the time of raising my children so much, that it is truly missed. I thank God for another chance to shape and mold another life, in our little girl.
Our youngest son is racing towards the finish line, he will be out of the nest in a mere two years. We are working hard to help him find his way, as committed parents are suppose to do.
Yet, it is a hard thing to see your babies fly off into the vastness of this world.
Still, we believe that when you truly embrace the charge given you at any season in your life, that God will give you peace and cause His grace to shine upon you.
I wrote that to hopefully encourage young mothers to enjoy their children.
Here is a link to my new book, about how we homeschooled our sons!